A new landscape: Big picture vs. small details

The dreams we weave on what could happen next are all in Big Picture mode. We get excited making things happen in our head, and it is the start of manifesting a new life. This is good! You should have dreams and goals. When details come filtering in, it must shift to a certain amount of day-to-day reality. It does not mean the dream ends. Not at all. But there is a certain shifting of the sails that has to happen for that dream to manifest. I’m in the middle of that now. This is where the good stuff, the hard stuff, the fun stuff happens.

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Note to self: Begging is not co-creating

Funny how a simple statement like the headline above has to be learned. Last week Friday I discovered all three dogs had cattle ticks deep in their ears. In the past they have had to go under anesthesia to remove ticks from the ear drum. Expensive time consuming, hard on the animal, and disruptive. Situations like these can bring on a mild panic. My regular vet was out of town so I had to make some calls. Finally I found a place that would take all three dogs. Small miracle! As a friend put it, I did a great job of co-creating to make that happen, through a passionate heart. (I love feedback like that.) So far so good.

As the day unfolded, what would normally be a stressful situation was somehow okay. I noticed a small tug when I felt panic rising about what could be an expensive, time consuming aftercare nightmare. This tug I felt made me feel more grounded. More calm. I gave credit to this new feeling to meditating regularly using Headspace. (Thanks Judy!) Meditating is relatively new for me and without the Headspace app, it would not be possible. As a result I am making progress in handling what life throws me. I am continually finding places to improve that will help me feel more grounded in all situations. Life takes practice. Often one small step at a time.

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Letting go of waiting

I think I was born to wait on others. Something that has my adult self wondering if I am an inflexible stick-in-the-mud of some sort. See the article My Kryptonite and Expect the Unexpected. I don’t want to be strict about it, and I want to have a very flexible attitude and outlook. But sometimes I really feel tested.

When I was younger, around grade school age or earlier, I waited endless nights for my dad to come home from work. I recall watching headlights go by hour after hour wishing so hard that the next set of lights would turn the corner and into our driveway. Wishing did not make it so. I remember feeling so confused and crushed by this, and as a child, ‘high functioning alcoholic’ was not in my vocabulary.

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Divine Right Timing

Or thought of another way, you can’t do anything wrong. I learned this saying, this idea, when I was at an evening talk in Albuquerque some years back. It stuck with me and rang true. The idea is, there is no such thing as a coincidence. It’s meant to be. Everything happens at the right time, even if it seems to you that things are going wrong, or you are running late. I’ve heard this many times, and through experience I have come to trust and believe in it.

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Remember this especially when you feel you made mistakes, or are running late, or even can’t make a date you said you could. All things from Spirit come with Divine Right Timing. Always. This is a sort of get out of jail free card in terms of worry. Stop worrying if your late arrival somewhere, or you lack of being able to do such and such is a terrible tragedy or is in some way wrong. It isn’t. Stop worrying. Spirit has your back. You did nothing wrong.

If you still feel bad about being late, or missing a connection of some sort, or not achieving a personal goal by a certain age, time, etc. realize that there is a divine plan, and you are part of it. You just can’t see the whole picture. If you are worried about something not happening at the right time, or are not sure what to ask for, always add the phrase, …with divine right timing. Then let go and be patient.

 

My kryptonite

For someone who teaches classes about dealing with Chaos and Drama, and relaxing and going with the Universal Flow, I need to practice more what I preach. For me going to an airport, through security, and especially flying, really freak me out. Handling it as best I can is a huge challenge. Employing what I have learned to drop any fear, anxiety and worry, and pick up on the ‘go with the flow’ good attitude is hard in my most fearful situation. So at least I can stay connected to my students in that we are all human, we all have flaws, have problem areas, none of us is perfect. Especially me! You could say that being in an airport, and being at the mercy of someone else, especially turbulence and landing, are the perfect learning ground for me.

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I can sit in traffic for hours and never mind being unable to get through, or having a long wait, or a long-unknown detour. But there is something about the total lack of control of being at the mercy of the airlines, getting one delay after the other. Getting a text message every hour telling me of another unexplained two-hour delay felt like the movie Groundhog Day. At least I had my Continue reading

Don’t avoid that dreaded thing, really

Yup. Guess how much time you spend dreading something rather than just doing it? A lot. Meetings, a phone call, sending an email, cleaning the house, doing the dishes, going to that reunion, etc. Whatever it is, I promise you if you are dreading the task, it is best to get it out of the way quickly or accept that it is in your future and stop the dread.

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Case in point, I used to dread doing the dishes by hand every night. Where I live the water is so hard, your fancy dishwasher will last about a year. It helps being just one person so dishes don’t pile up. But also being just one person means no one else can help me do those nasty dishes. Dang! So, one day I had been thinking and thinking how much I hated doing those dishes, but they must be done so it does not compound (more dishes). An experiment was in order. I drew a sink full of soapy water and noted the time. Taking care to do a good job, not be in a hurry, so my experiment would be true to my everyday life. Usually I also wipe all the counters and give the stove Continue reading

Flipping It: A tool for change

I don’t know who coined the term of flipping it, but it’s the best idea since sliced bread, or since bread itself! The basic idea is to flip negatives into positives. Sometimes you have to search for them and do a little thinking in order to make the flip. The quicker you take this to heart, the better! Based on the Law of Attraction, you don’t want to spin into negativity, as that only creates more, and then  you are into that whole churning miasma of doom. You are a sender and receiver of energy and vibes. Being and feeling positive at your core is important. Attracting more positive energy is the ticket to things running smoothly. It’s like going with the flow instead of trying to rail against What Is. Swimming against the current is tiring and not productive. Remember, energy flows where attention goes. I could say it a hundred ways! Having a positive outlook and vibe means things will fall into place.

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Case in point, a good friend of mine was in a terrible job. She spent a long time getting a better education and looking for new work. Eventually she got a new job. However, when I spoke to her she told me she was more miserable in this job than the last one! As she listed her complaints, those complaints spilled out into her personal life, and into everything. I knew she could not see this, but anyone within listening distance could tell this person was totally miserable. I knew this was something that could be changed quickly if it was desired. What I wanted to tell my friend was, life does not have to be that hard. I wanted my friend to be happy!  Continue reading

Jumping to conclusions

As an avid thinker and worrier, I am finding more and more that I jump to conclusions too quickly. They are often the wrong conclusions and the worst case scenario. This is not good for manifesting and co-creating a great life. Being divorced (I’d like to call it single) means I have no partner to support me, and everything is on me to survive. There is no one to lean on for moral or financial support. It’s not what I am used to. Any little change to life’s routine sets my mind immediately to the very worst thing that could happen. But hey, everyone wants their future to be set in stone and taken care of, right? Right! We all know that doesn’t happen and life has no guarantees, right? Right!

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Recently I discovered a leak in my swamp cooler system. The copper wire under the sink in the kitchen was spraying water all over, and had been for some time. Argh! I turned off the tiny valve to stop the flow of water. I asked my neighbor to help Continue reading

Am I doing it right?

You may have heard the phrase, you are exactly where you should be. Usually people who are wondering, Am I doing it right? or Did I make the right decision? find themselves being given this advice. I’m a thinker. I think too much and am in my head too much. I used to worry about whether or not I was doing things right, from a soul perspective. Did I take the right path, learn the right thing? Now that I trust in my own intuition and I trust that things are unfolding as they should, I realize many of the events that I lived through were wonderful for looking back on to gain a different view point.

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My understanding is, you are exactly where you should be at any given moment in life. This considers your past experiences, what you have learned along the way, your current level of knowledge and experience about life and how it all works. No one is perfect! The phrase you are exactly where you should be is a get out of jail free card in terms of worry, and feeling guilty about not being perfect or not doing the right thing. If you feel you screwed up, or could have handled something differently, don’t sweat it. Don’t obsess over those details. You did your best.

You can’t do anything wrong, because each experience, every encounter in life is an opportunity to grow and learn. Much the same way that for scientists there is no such thing as a failed experiment, because at a minimum, knowledge was gained from what did not work. A burnt batch of chocolate chip cookies tell you the oven was too hot, and yet, you might still be able to enjoy a few of those cookies!  Don’t take life so seriously.