On the word psychic

Years ago it was amazing if you knew anyone who knew anyone who admitted to being psychic, or even interested in such things. If you said you were one, you’d be ostracized by society and your family and friends would disown you. Between the misconceptions from Hollywood movies, and the hotline that promised to tell you all about your life and ‘predict’ your future, the term got a bad rap. 

I have never liked the word psychic because it carries undeserved negative connotations. It is overused, inaccurate, and grossly misunderstood. Time to shed a very off-putting term that totally misrepresents. And time to move on to a new term that more accurately represents what many of us do and feel. I like it when people are accurate about their abilities. That is what I have come to honor and respect. The word psychic is out of my vocabulary and instead I use the term intuitive, intuitive reader, or intuitive healer.

Contrary to popular belief intuitives don’t know everything about everyone. It does not work like that. Imagine the sensory overload! And they don’t and shouldn’t ever predict the future. Why? Because you have free will, and you are always in charge of your own life. No one and nothing can change that. I have three pages devoted to clarity and truth about readings under my services menu: About Readings, Readings fact and fiction, and Before & After a reading.

People who read for others are highly intuitive, and more in touch with Spirit. They don’t see the future laid out before them. Anyone that tells you they can see your future and tells you what to do is full of it. It’s more like getting small snippets of advice from Spirit and/or your guides to help you on your path. I’ve heard it described like this: Getting a glimpse of the ‘other side’ is like looking at this other world through a hole the size of a pin prick. Your life is yours to create, and all any gifted intuitive person should do is be a go between, a connection, between you/your questions, and Spirit.

Note the term Guides, it’s pretty accurate. Spirit/your guides will never tell you what to do. They will never ever make a choice for you. It’s not their role. They don’t have the authority to push you through an open door. They will guide you, and show you options. You must make a choice for yourself. Think of it this way, every single moment in your life you are making a choice, even if you are not doing anything. I am reminded of lyrics from a song called Freewill by Rush. 

“If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.”

Use readings for insights and guidance to make the best choices for your path forward. I would rather see someone never get a reading in their life, but instead work on honing their skills of intuition, than have a bad reading experience. I do intuitive readings to be a link between you and your guides if you have questions or want guidance. Don’t ever let anyone take the responsibility for running your life out of your hands. You are always in charge. You are the captain of your ship! Steer wisely! 

Comments, stories, opinions and personal insights are always welcome! 

On Guides

Guides are beings that help us with our life’s journey. Much like the idea of a guardian angel. Some stick with us for life, other specialists can come and go, depending on what is happening in our lives. When I say guides, the word is also a hint at what their role is in our lives. They can’t and won’t make us do anything. That is not their purpose. They are our helpers on the other side, assisting us in what we want to accomplish. If we go off track, they cajole, they hint, they advise, they knock us over the head with a 2×4 in order to get our attention. They help us learn a lesson that keeps repeating in our life. They can come in with specialized information depending on what’s going on. Are you building a home? Getting a divorce? Preparing for your first child? Speaking in front of a large crowd for the first time? Starting your own business? Dealing with your in-laws? Guides with such experience or information will come and go throughout our lives as we need them.

How guides communicate with us
They communicate with us through many channels. I get visions or quick snapshots of images, hear a word or two in my head, keep hearing a song on the radio, keep seeing a particular image or color repeated. My dreams are a big way they communicate with me. Those dreams are usually very short and very crystal clear. As if time has stopped. They communicate through many channels and in events called synchronicities. Communicating through our Intuition is a big way they communicate with us. Pay attention to and develop your intuition and messages and information will come at you with more regularity.

Guides never push us through a door
It is up to us to choose the next door to walk through. I think of it this way: Guides can bring us to a door, or series of doors (choices), but they cannot make us walk through the door. That’s up to us. We are the captains of our ship, guides are just swabbing the poop deck and hoisting the mainsail! Well, not really, but you get the idea. I call them my lightworker team or celestial crew.

The Intuitive Reader and Guides—How it Works
Some native american tribes describe the person doing a reading as a hollow bone. A hollow bone for the flow of information from Spirit to Earth. That’s a great analogy. The intuitive does not ‘know’ this information and it does not come from them. It comes from Spirit. They do not ‘predict’ your future, you are given information from Spirit, for your best path forward.

If you are the one having a reading, the intuitive will first ask for permission for the exchange of information to occur. This happens in the blink of an eye. It’s like knocking on someone’s door instead of just walking in without notice. It’s the polite thing to do. That’s my understanding of the process.

If the sitter wished for this information to come to them personally, they can work on recognizing and developing their intuitive skills. It’s possible. 🙂 I teach classes on developing intuition. Check it out here.

Having an Open Heart
If you are having a reading and you do not have an open heart, no information will come through. That’s the very first step, is for both parties involved to take some deep breaths, sit quietly, and open their hearts, allowing Continue reading

Coping patterns

“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. Their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” —Don Miguel Ruiz

For many years after traumatic, chaotic, emotionally and mentally abusive events occur, your body goes through the motions of post-traumatic effects. Your body and you create what I call coping patterns. My brain tells me the daily abuse is over and I am healed, but my body doesn’t care where the attacks come from. All it know is it is time to ride out the storm for a few days if something happens that is not part of a normal day. Even one person, or a group of people in a meeting talking over me loudly ignoring what I have to say, will set off an episode of what I call hunkering down. These are big triggers for me. Your body has a way of remembering how you got through the abuse. It gets tired, slowing you down, making you sleep a lot. Maybe you eat your way to comfort, or drink yourself to sleep. You cocoon. You repair. You sleep.

Your body will hold onto past trauma, this has been scientifically proven. That’s why doing body work such as yoga, Tai Chi, breath work, meditation, and other physical techniques are beneficial. Doing these activities can help your body release old trauma. Also simply recognizing you are having an episode can help bring you out of it and help you cope in a better way.

For me any trauma would have me laying low for three days. I would experience a crushing tired/exhausted feeling near the end of my body’s processing of the perceived trauma. I knew from experience it would take three days for my body to adjust to something my mind was okay with. I call it ‘perceived trauma’ such as a verbal attack or challenge. In my marriage, I was constantly belittled, verbally attacked, torn apart, and mentally and emotionally abused on a daily basis. After a while I did not know up from down. Just getting through a day with no bumps in the road was a small miracle. I kept trying to please my husband and I would work my tail to the bone and still he was unhappy about some part of his life. He took it out on me. He told me, it was always my fault! Almost anything would set him off, and it was usually nothing to be upset at. Nonetheless he would batter me and badger me and make my life miserable. That takes a toll on a person.  Continue reading

The long exhale

The two years of unwinding on all levels after my divorce was a period I refer to as The Long Exhale. Being in a poisonous, dramatic, very chaotic environment for 18 years did some major damage. I recall the first day after my husband was kicked off the property by the police and the divorce was proceeding. I knew there was a huge shitstorm coming my way, because he was a supreme manipulator and a huge drama queen. He hated being challenged or bested and he was the ‘never give up’ kind of guy. I was in for the ride of my life, but I knew divorce was at hand. My life depended on it. The first day back at the property after I had just arrived home from work, I got out of the car, was greeted by my animals and heard myself say out loud “I’m going to be just fine!” I don’t even know what part of me said that! But it was nice to hear. I was a very happy camper to finally be out of that nightmare. I was now the captain of my own ship!

During the time of The Big Change, I dropped so much of my old life by the wayside. Dropped bad habits, old outdated ideas. I got my self confidence back bit by bit. The support came from many places: friends, Buddhist lectures, work and co-workers, taking up a life with horses, etc. Help manifested itself in so many ways. I had much to dump, much to relearn and so much to explore. It was like shedding an old skin that no longer suited me and being totally reborn, from head to toe. But it took a long time for this to happen. This sort of deep change comes slowly. But is well worth it.

The single life suits me very well and I never in my life thought I would be totally content and happy being single. My new life is very different than my old life, and all of it is by my own design. Things I want in my life are there, or coming into being. Things I don’t want have been tossed out, abandoned or given the heave-ho. In order to get to this new life, it took a lot of work, exploring, research and guts that I didn’t know I had. I would never trade this new life for anything else on the planet. But it took a lot of work to get to this point, this new level of living co-creatively.

If you have been through a rough patch, regardless of the length of time you were in it, please give yourself time to heal, adjust, renew, replenish, explore, test, and invent your new life. You have an opportunity to reinvent yourself. This will be a great time of growth. Give yourself and your body a huge break from being perfect or meeting anyone else’s expectations, especially your own. You may need a long exhale too.

 

Personal power and those ruby slippers

Looking back on my very difficult, abusive marriage, I realize I always had a choice. I could have left the instant my instincts said this was a bad pairing, a bad marriage, a very bad experience. Like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz story, she found out about the magical powers of her shoes late into her journey. Many people would have been angry at finding out so late, that they had the power to fix things all along. But Dorothy had no regret in the difficult, mysterious, scary path she had taken that seemed out of her control. 

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She had a fantastic journey and met many friends along the way. Had she chosen to use the power of her magical ruby slippers sooner, she would never have found her voice and her own personal power. Without this difficult journey, she would not be the same person she was by the end of the movie.

I felt the same was true with my situation. Even though my marriage and split was hard and seemed out of my control, was full of pitfalls, daily emotional and mental drama, and frustration at every turn, it made me stronger and is still giving me insights. Through this baptism by fire, I found my voice and my personal power, and no one can take that from me, ever again. (Cue the happy ending music!)

The most life-changing insight of all was that I always had a choice. As hard and painful as the path had been to get to this insight, I was happy to be where I was at once I was on the other side of all the drama and chaos. I have no regrets about the past, nor do I feel I ‘wasted’ my time, as some people say about a failed marriage. It was the path leading to my own personal freedom and power, that taught me to be a compassionate person toward others. I would not give it up for anything! It was hard won and now I own it. I am fully in charge of my life, co-creating my future, compassionately, lovingly. Our paths have many joys and many pitfalls. All experiences are for our highest good, even though at the time, we may not think so. 

What is co-creating?

I don’t remember when I first heard that term, but I was not sure I understood exactly what co-creating meant. So, take off the cowgirl hat and put on the detective hat. It started with my first basic observation that everything is energy.

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We live in, and are part of something I call Universal Flow. Once I was more in tune with this flow, I learned to recognize intuition, how it manifests, and how to use it. By using my intuition through paying attention to how it manifested in my body, using the Law of Attraction, and asking for and receiving guidance from Spirit, I started consciously co-creating. I developed my skills with routine, everyday tasks to build on my experience. Now it’s as easy as breathing.  Continue reading

The Big Change

In some posts I talk about The Big Change I went through. And so you will know when I mention this in future blog posts. I was married for over 18 years to someone I loved. Over time this person become volatile, chaotic, overly dramatic and downright cruel. Every day mental and emotional torture and anguish were mine to deal with. I kept trying to keep my marriage together, but it didn’t work. Hanging on way past the time I should have left was foolish, but keep in mind the idea of Divine Right Timing. You do things when you are ready. Time was running out and I knew I would either be dead shortly, or I would have to get out of the marriage. Our split would mean this person would go kicking and screaming, would make my life miserable, with more drama than any drama llama could muster. It all happened as I suspected. But all that is water under the bridge.

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The Big Change was not living in that very abusive and demoralizing situation where I constantly undervalued and ignored my own needs. The divorce was not The Big Change as many might assume. The Big Change was the seven or eight years after the split where my spirituality and love of anything I was denied during the marriage were explored deeply and passionately, with huge doses of cowgirl common sense thrown in for good measure. My ex hated God, religion, or the idea of anything greater than himself. He especially hated and abhorred anything metaphysical. Now that I was no longer being held down by him, I had my time to explore, have fun, and really dig into many areas of life that had previously been shut off to me.

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Be the space for

What does that mean, to be the space for something or someone? For me, it means detaching from the drama, the chaos, and the emotionality of what is unfolding. It also means to hold space for what is occurring to let things be for the highest good for all concerned, without your personal bias. It’s on an energetic, vibe level that you are holding space. That’s holding space or being the space for something or someone.

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Being the space for two people, let’s say two good friend who are arguing, would be to detach emotionally, stay present, send love and don’t hope for any particular outcome. Remain neutral as possible while supporting the space for this to occur. It is very important to make sure you are not biased in the outcome whatsoever. Make sure it is for the highest good of all concerned.  Continue reading

Sending love

What does it mean to send love? It’s an energy thing. Since I believe everything is energy, you can bet your bottom dollar I feel love as a vibration, an energetic force. A force for good, not evil. (You know I had to say that!)

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First you have to understand love (or any emotion) vibrationally. In terms of what I will call the emotional vibrational scale, Love is at the top, and it’s opposite, fear is at the bottom. All actions, all emotions, all feelings, are either love-based or fear-based. Gossip, complaining, prejudice and jealousy are all fear based. Compassion, giddy feelings, joy, happiness, and appreciation are all Love-based.  Continue reading

What is intuition?

The best way I can explain it is to say it’s your gut reaction to things, events, people. That’s how it starts. Your body is a large antenna for All That Is, and all that’s going on energetically. Your intuition is often felt on the Spirit/Universal-level, but experienced or felt somewhere physically in your body. Ever feel a sense of dread in your gut as you walk into a room of people? You can tell when something is ‘in the air’, or when there is something wrong. It’s your Spidey Senses kicking in. Your intuition is telling you, through your body, something is off. That’s the way I discovered my intuition. Always trust your gut. Your gut will not lie to you. Always trust your gut over your logical mind, or even over your heart if in doubt. Your gut reaction is never wrong.

Intuition is of course much richer, and much more complex than the above description, but that’s the best way I can describe sensing the beginnings of intuition. It’s much more powerful that many of us realize. I leave it up to you, the reader to do research, make your own decisions, and experiment on your own. That way once you accept a new concept or thing, it’s totally yours. That’s the best way to proceed if unsure of something new. Always do your own, personal research. Whatever information does not resonate with you, drop it. Feel free to accept what does resonate with you.

When you start sensing and using it to your advantage, you can do much to move your life forward in ways you never imagined before, for your higher good and the good of the planet. Intuition is also one way Spirit/The Universe/All That Is uses to communicate with us. It’s how you are nudged and how hints are communicated to you. Using intuition to live on a moment-by-moment basis doing everyday things is how I have lived my life for many years. I can hardly imagine a time I did not use my intuition, and I can’t imagine how I lived before I started using it.

For me personally, it can come as the usual gut reaction, or feeling like butterflies in my stomach. Or just that sub-vocal whisper in my subconscious, or a red flag feeling/sensing sort of feeling. Think Spidey Senses. Pay attention to those! I have also gotten messages through visuals that pop into my head, much like the old slide projector shows. A slide pops up, stays on screen for a few seconds, and is gone. A song on the radio may be playing lyrics that I should pay attention to, that are meaningful for me at the moment. There are countless ways intuition can be sensed, felt and seen.

Intuition is one of the greatest tools for a self-actualized, self-directed, You are the author of your life way of living. Don’t discount it. Start paying attention. Pay attention to that voice in the stillness. Explore. Research, and start using this wonderful tool brought to us directly by the Universe and All That Is.

I could go on and on about intuition, but I would rather write just enough to get a spark started in you. In a future blog post I will talk more on intuitive hits.

Feel free to comment, discuss and leave me a note in the comments section. Happy research!