Jumping to conclusions

As an avid thinker and worrier, I am finding more and more that I jump to conclusions too quickly. They are often the wrong conclusions and the worst case scenario. This is not good for manifesting and co-creating a great life. Being divorced (I’d like to call it single) means I have no partner to support me, and everything is on me to survive. There is no one to lean on for moral or financial support. It’s not what I am used to. Any little change to life’s routine sets my mind immediately to the very worst thing that could happen. But hey, everyone wants their future to be set in stone and taken care of, right? Right! We all know that doesn’t happen and life has no guarantees, right? Right!


Recently I discovered a leak in my swamp cooler system. The copper wire under the sink in the kitchen was spraying water all over, and had been for some time. Argh! I turned off the tiny valve to stop the flow of water. I asked my neighbor to help identify the parts I would need to fix it because I felt a trip to the hardware store in town was in order. How I dread going anywhere on the weekend. I live way out in the sticks and I hate driving anywhere that is not absolutely necessary. I also live to ride, and I might have to give that up. 😦 Now my weekend was ruined! Fixing it was not up to me, I don’t know a thing about tiny copper tubing, fittings, etc. So I figured I’d be without cooling for at least a week. My neighbor took one look at it, grabbed two wrenches, applied slight pressure to each wrench and tightened the fitting. What? It’s FIXED already? I had no idea. He said, gently, next time don’t get all hysterical. HA! Well he was right and I felt totally silly. My weekend was not ruined, nor did I have to suffer through a week in a hot house.

Probably my earliest memory, was me jumping to conclusions. I laugh at it to this day. My sweet Grandfather was babysitting us three kids. We were quite young. I heard the ice cream truck coming down the street. You know that fun melody that you can hear a few blocks away advertising ice cream in the hood. I instantly started crying! You might think, hey that’s a bit odd, this should be a happy thing! But my child mind was thinking a grown up like Grampa would not even know an ice cream truck existed, and I would not get a treat. Wrong-O Batman! I was crying so hard I did not see my grandfather come up to me with my very favorite treat, an ice cream sandwich! Tears turned off and I was elated. Not only did I get ice cream, but somehow Grampa knew my very favorite kind.Why on earth did I think the worst? Even as a small child?  Somehow that worst case scenario was already in my head. I dunno. I don’t want to get stuck in thinking about why. It’s better to get on with the how to fix it part.

In an effort to reverse this strange habit of jumping to conclusions I am employing a tool called flipping it. You take a bad scenario and flip it to find the good in it. That should be the takeaway message, the good part. Not the part where you think to yourself I am worried about something that may or may not happen in the future that is very far away.  But I am fighting a lifetime habit of worry, this will take time and practice. Learning to flip things quickly will do me a world of good for my outlook, attitude, and my core energy, my inner vibe. That vibe, or hum should be set to confidence, love, happiness, joy and general positivity. Through the Law of Attraction, you attract what you send out, energetically. I’m going to break this habit by golly! As a friend of mine said (paraphrasing) we should see all we deal with in life as opportunities for growth, not as something dreadful. Bingo!

Now when I find myself worried and jumping to conclusions I remind myself to immediately flip it. Because Grampa gave me an ice cream sandwich! No, because I want to change for the good. Find the good in it. Be confident the future holds good things for me. (I will post more detail about flipping it in my next post.) 


2 thoughts on “Jumping to conclusions

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